This Conference hosted by Julie Skolnick is an online event with recordings of presentations by 16+ experts on being a gifted and twice exceptional adult.
Learn more in article "How To Thrive More as a Gifted Adult - the Let’s Talk 2e Adult Conference" https://highability.org/7639/
“Great accomplishment, and even what we call genius, is typically the result of years of passion and dedication and not something that flows naturally from a gift.”
Being highly sensitive is a common experience for many, if not most, gifted people. It is related to intensity and excitabilities such as emotional, intellectual and imaginational and sensory.
Mary-Elaine Jacobsen comments in an article of hers about the high sensitivity aspect of giftedness.
Emotional health for creative, gifted, highly sensitive people
Creative, sensitive, gifted kids & adults can "ride their waves of emotion instead of being flooded by them." The Social-Emotional ACES Home Video Program http://thecreativemind.net/ACES
Author Mary-Elaine Jacobsen writes about the experience of being exceptional:
"To feel like an outsider, to constantly pressure yourself to hold back your gifts in order to fit in or avoid disapproval, to erroneously believe that you are overly sensitive, compulsively perfectionistic, and blindly driven, to live without knowing the basic truths about the core of your being – too often this is the life of Everyday Geniuses who have been kept in the dark about who they are and misinformed about their differences.
One of my related articles: "Celebrating giftedness: You may be gifted – get over it" - We may not have realized all or even many of the promises of our identity as a gifted kid, and through circumstance or suppression left talents unmanifested or unspoken. But that doesn’t mean we have lost that aspect of who we are. http://highability.org/67/
We all like to think we are the greatest person this earth has ever seen. This article from the Creativitypost makes the point that that can never be true, and what is means for the tomorrow of our youth if the common person believes they are the gifted kid our mothers tells us we are.
What Is Impostor Syndrome? That was the question we attempted to answer during #gtchat as well as ways to combat it. Feeling like a fake, just lucky, or false modesty are all characteristics of Imp...
Douglas Eby's insight:
Actor Emma Watson commented: “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved." - From article "Getting beyond impostor feelings" http://talentdevelop.com/2434/
We need to celebrate and tolerate individual difference. - by Allen Frances, M.D. - "The 3-5% of kids who are particularly gifted are also at special risk for being tagged with an inappropriate diagnosis of mental disorder.
Marianne Kuzujanakis, MD, MPH is the perfect person to explain why. She is a pediatrician and a Director of SENG (Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted)- an organization dedicated to helping the gifted and their parents. She is also a co-founder of the SENG Misdiagnosis Initiative..."
Nicole Kidman has talked about her personal qualities and experiences that relate to being a gifted and talented person with multiple talents.
“You live with a lot of complicated emotions as an actor, and they whirl around you and create havoc at times. …. It’s my choice, and I would rather do it this way than live to be 100. .. Or rather than choosing not to exist within life’s extremities. I’m willing to fly close to the flame.” Nicole Kidman
“Creatively gifted children and adults are emotionally intense and have rich inner lives..." Linda Kreger Silverman
New study on prodigies reveals some startling findings. By Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D....
"Looking at all eight children together, the researchers found some striking patterns. The first thing they noticed is the wide spread of IQ scores- ranging from 108 to 147. Consistent with the work of Feldman and Morelock, it appears that a high IQ is not necessary to be a prodigy.
What was particularly striking, however, was their subtest scores. Every single prodigy displayed an exceptional working memory."
"Gifted children and adults are often misunderstood. Their excitement is viewed as excessive, their high energy as hyperactivity, their persistence as nagging, their imagination as not paying attention, their passion as being disruptive, their strong emotions and sensitivity as immaturity, their creativity and self-directedness as oppositional.
This resource describes these overexcitabilities and strategies for dealing with children and adults who are experiencing them.."
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Related post: Excitabilities and Gifted People – an intro by Susan Daniels
On the upside, apparently introverts make up a higher proportion of 'gifted' people icon smile Are you introverted or extroverted? Are you introverted or extroverted? Does this ring any bells for any other introverts out there?
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Related post: Shyness, Introversion, Sensitivity – What’s the Difference?
Many creative, sensitive, highly intelligent people may feel like misfits.
Therapist Sharon M. Barnes notes that "Many creative, sensitive, intelligent and/or gifted youth and adults feel like misfits, or as many have expressed, like aliens from a different planet."
See link in article to her Social-Emotional ACES Home Video Program to “help you become skilled experts in the Social-Emotional arena.”
“The cumulative effect is that many creative, sensitive, intelligent and/or gifted youth and adults feel like misfits, or as many have expressed, like aliens from a different planet."
This program helps people become "skilled experts in the Social-Emotional arena. You’ll learn to ride the intense waves of emotion in your life, instead of being pulled under by them."
Sharon M. Barnes, MSSW, LCSW, Therapist For Sensitive And Gifted, works with children, teens and adults who are creative, sensitive, intense, and often gifted people.
She comments that "many creative, sensitive, intelligent and/or gifted youth and adults feel like misfits, or as many have expressed, like aliens from a different planet."
“I don’t think I’m even close to fulfilling my potential.” Actor Kerry Washington
Psychologist Kenneth W. Christian delineates some of the most prominent patterns of thinking and behavior he has found that may lead to undermining and underachievement as adults.
He says "Pulling back from your potential is a kind of abdication, an abandoment of your own best interests."
"When we equate giftedness with achievement in school, or with the potential for noteworthy achievement in adult life, we create an inequitable criterion for children of color, children who are economically disadvantaged, and females. Throughout history, those who attain eminence have been predominantly white, middle or upper class males...
"By way of contrast, giftedness is color-blind, is found in equal proportions in males and females... and is distributed across all socio-economic levels... While the percentage of gifted students among the upper classes may be higher, the vast majority of gifted children come from the lower classes... Throughout the world, there are more poor gifted children than rich ones."
Douglas Eby's insight:
"The vast majority of gifted adults are never identified. Even those who were tested as children and placed in gifted programs often believe that their giftedness disappeared by the time they reached adulthood.
"It does not seem to matter how much success a person achieves—hardly anyone is comfortable saying, “I’m gifted.” That is why this book, Enjoying the Gift of Being Uncommon, is such a major breakthrough." - Linda Silverman in post: The Gift of Being Uncommon
“I was shy. I was a mixture of insecurities and very bossy.” J.K. Rowling added that she was “Very bossy to my sister but quite quiet with strangers. Very bookish. Terrible at school."
One of the personal qualities that seems to be shared by most gifted children is being different and divergent – in terms of thinking, interests, values and behavior.
Many gifted adults feel “wrong” or anxious about “not fitting in” even though being different can be a strength, a positive attribute.
In this article, Jill Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig define introversion and lists many of the characteristics of introverts. Suggestions are made on ways teachers can help introverts in the classroom and how families can help introverts at home.
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One of my related posts: Shyness, Introversion, Sensitivity – What’s the Difference?
A number of movies include gifted and talented characters, and depict a variety of characteristics that are positive and relate to exceptional abilities, but also can generate not so positive reactions – such as “You think you’re so smart,” or, “You’re too verbal… too bossy… too nerdy… too sensitive.”
And, of course, we may still experience some of those reactions as adults
One of the central tasks of adolescence is to negotiate identity development and gain increased self-awareness. This is important for all adolescents but particularly so for gifted teenagers who of...
Given that many definitions of giftedness suggest that 10% of the population is gifted , there is clearly an abundance of “others who may not understand” and circumstances and experiences where misunderstanding can and does occur.
A number of talented and accomplished actors and other creative people are energized - or burdened - by this drive to be perfect.
Mia Wasikowska plays the title role in the new “Alice in Wonderland,” and notes that at age 20 she is still fairly new to acting and recalls:
“I was at dance school doing about 35 hours practice a week until I was 14. Then ballet started to grate – the whole idea of trying to attain perfection started to ruin the experience, so I decided to try another type of performance.”
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